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 Not everyone will understand your journey…

The only person that is truly aware of your emotions, your intentions, or your interpretation of experiences (which is all they can be), is you.

As much as others may — at most times — identify with you or your actions, it is impossible to go through life without occasionally being misunderstood. While you can control what you say or how you act, you cannot always control how others choose to interpret it.

And at times, it may seem that no matter how hard you try to explain yourself to others, they just don’t “get it”.

This should be expected.

Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s fine. It’s nottheir journey to make sense of. It’syours.

It may help to remember that you don’t have to explain yourself or justify your actions to others unless you want to.

The need to explain one’s self is often prompted by fear and the desire to control the outcome of a conversation — for both validation and approval. Just because someone doesn’t agree with your explanation or decisions doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong.

If you are truly in love with your decisions, the more confident you will be that it doesn’t matter what others think of them.

“If you’re truly going after your heart’s desires and you truly believe in yourself and what you’re trying to accomplish, then you’re not doing it for others or what they think about it — you’re doing it for you.“

Just because someone doesn’t understand your journey, it doesn’t mean you’re wrong or heading in the wrong direction. There can be — and often are — multiple paths to the same destination.

And if the path you’re taking through life is along a road less traveled, then it will by its very nature, be less understood and less able to be identified with by those following more conventional routes.

Again, this should be expected.

“Two roads diverged in a wood and I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.” – Robert Frost

What can sometimes start as a simple quest for gathering feedback from others can sometimes lead to a battle of differing opinions.

Learn to listen to feedback with an open mind, but not take it personally when someone doesn’t “get” or agree with you or your decisions.

“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” — Don Miguel Ruiz

Realize that when all is said and done, you can choose not to let the feedback you’ve received from others have an impact on your decision making process or your journey.

“Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the f*ck you were gonna do anyway.” — Robert Downey Jr.

And also realize that you are in control of your emotions. You don’t have to go into the defensive emotional state when having a disagreement or when someone is critical of you or something you’ve done. Remember that this heightened emotional state is most often motivated by your insecurities and need to be accepted.

“Inner Peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.”

As I’ve written before, you can not please everyone, nor should it be your goal to try. What others think of you, your ideas, your decisions, or your journey isn’t nearly as important as what you think of these things.

Your value doesn’t reside in others or what they think of you — it resides in you. Don’t leave your sense of worth and well-being in the hands of others.

The more confident you are in yourself, the less concerned you will be about what others think of you (for good or ill) — and oddly, the more people will tend to respect you for it.